Vivah Sanskar

Vivah Sanskar, also known as Marriage ceremony is a sacred union of two soul s - An entry into the dignified family life. Hindu Dharma has prescribed four Purusharthas (Four basic pursuits of life), that is Dharma, Artha (Wealth), Kama (Desires) and Moksha (Salvation). The purpose of the Vivah Sanskar is to fulfill the Purushartha of Kama (fulfiling the desires) and then gradually advance towards Moksha. The rite is performed with Vedic Hymns and is termed as the biggest event of a human life in modern era.

A women has to leave her parents house and has to move to her husbands house. Vivah is performed with pag fere in a fire ritual with Vedic Hymns. Women from both sides sings folk songs and the atmosphere is very pleasant which the rituals are going on. During pag fere (rounding the fire), both grrom and bride has to take 7 rounds. In the first 4 rounds bride is moving forward and in the last 3 rounds, groom takes on. With every round, one swearing in takes place, this is known as Saptpadi. These seven swearings are:

First step lead to food that is both nourishing and pure.
Second step lead to strength (at the physical, emotional, intellectual and spiritual levels).
Third step lead to prosperity.
Fourth step lead to all round happiness.
Fifth step lead to progeny (noble and virtuous children).
Sixth step lead to long life.
Seventh step lead to bondage (through harmony).

Several important things in the life of a man and woman are associated with marriage; for example, love between man and woman, their relationship, progeny, various happy events in their lives, social status and prosperity. Society respects a married woman, which assists in keeping the society in a healthy state. A women is always highly respected in Hinduism but in some cases we have seen that out of greed and desires they are been neglected to some extent. However, in the modern era, women have bestowed with a lot of rights and with that the social framework of Hinduism is getting disturbed to some extent. Women use their maiden surname even after marriage to advocate women’s emancipation, but such emancipation is not solicited as it is against the principle of Hindu Dharma of merging with others !

Sight of a woman with kumkum (Vermillion) on her forehead, wearing a mangalsutra (A typical ornament worn by a married Hindu woman; it is a symbol of marriage and worn by the woman until her husband’s death) around her neck, green bangles, toe rings and six or nine-yard sari (A traditional attire of Bharatiya women) automatically generates respect for her in the mind of an observer. Due to the relationships of wife, daughter-in-law, paternal aunt, sister-in-law etc. after marriage, a woman automatically gets a respectable position. Viewing a woman (other than the wife) as a mother and with respect keeps the society in a healthy state. Such a woman can be looked upto as an ideal by spinsters